Vijay Rai: Empowering Stroke Survivors and Creating a Strong Community

In a world where selflessness and compassion are often overlooked, individuals like Vijay Rai shine as beacons of hope. Her unwavering dedication to helping stroke survivors and their families has earned her the prestigious Outstanding Contribution Award at the Different Strokes Volunteer Awards 2023. Let’s delve into the inspiring journey of this remarkable woman and the impact she has made on the lives of many in her volunteer role as a Group Coordinator in West London.

We asked Vijay what made her become a volunteer for Different Strokes. She shared: “In 2008, my Dad had a stroke. He displayed the classic FAST symptoms; one side of his face drooping and the inability to move one side of his body. Despite his stubbornness and reluctance to seek medical help, I became increasingly concerned. It was a difficult decision to go against his wishes, but I knew something was seriously wrong. Seeking guidance, I turned to a neighbour who advised me to call 999. Dad resisted going to the local hospital, so we took a taxi to Charing Cross Hospital. By then, it was already 4 pm and twelve hours after his symptoms had begun. When we arrived, I struggled to get him out of the car and asked the staff for assistance. They quickly suspected a stroke and directed me to the reception, where I completely broke down. I prayed fervently, feeling guilt-ridden. I was clueless about strokes until that day. I believed it was somehow my fault. I stayed there until 2 am, overwhelmed with worry that we might lose him. Thankfully, he survived.”

“My Dad was an incredible man, and his stubbornness both hindered and aided his recovery. He despised hospitals and was determined to return home as soon as possible. During the day, he resisted following the physiotherapists’ instructions, but at night, when he was alone, he diligently performed his own yoga, stretching and breathing exercises. He spent six weeks in the hospital, and witnessing his transformation during that time was truly astonishing.

“Upon his return home, I was initially clueless about how to care for him and assist in his recovery. However, I became like a sponge, absorbing knowledge about strokes and understanding his needs. I quit my job to care for Dad full-time. By taking him to classes and by volunteering at the hospital, I immersed myself in all things stroke. Inspired by his use of yoga in his recovery I obtained a Level 1 Yoga qualification. My Dad sadly passed away in 2015.”

“In 2010, someone from Hounslow Council approached me and asked me to establish an exercise class for stroke survivors. Joining forces with Different Strokes, I wasted no time and made it happen. From the initial conversation on a Tuesday, our first class was up and running just four days later on Saturday. I have always been a proactive person, driven to make things happen.”

Vijay quickly realised the immense importance of being there for stroke survivors, lending a listening ear, and providing reassurance and guidance. She understood first-hand the feelings of isolation and loneliness that stroke survivors often face and was determined to ensure that no other family would go through the same experience she had alone.

Now running two active classes a week in Brunel and Hounslow, Vijay believed she is supporting around 40 survivors at the moment and has over a 100 members on their books. Vijay creates a safe space where individuals can not only work on their physical recovery but openly share their experiences. She recognises that while some stroke survivors seek solace in forgetting their past and embracing laughter, others may require a more serious approach. Her exceptional organisation skills come into play as she plans and coordinates activities tailored to the diverse needs of the members. From therapeutic sessions working with students in the area to Zumba, yoga, walking football and Zoom sessions for working survivors to social occasions like their recent party for the King’s Coronation, Vijay goes above and beyond to foster an environment of healing and growth.

Receiving the Outstanding Contribution Award came as a surprise to Vijay. When she received the missed call from Austin, CEO of Different Strokes to tell her she had won this award she initially thought something was wrong. However, when she learned the real reason for his call she was both humbled and grateful. Vijay’s humility shines through as she insists that it is the members, therapists, volunteers, and carers who deserve the credit. For her, it is a collective effort—a big family working together to make a difference. Her ability to relate to stroke survivors and their families stems from her own personal experiences with her father, reinforcing her commitment to the cause.

Looking to the future, Vijay has grand plans for her groups. As they have outgrown their current space in Hounslow, she is actively searching for a more accessible and spacious venue. She envisions expanding their services to include speech therapy and offering more sessions, particularly targeting younger stroke survivors. Vijay’s determination to help others knows no bounds, and she never hesitates to lend a helping hand, making her an indispensable force within the community.

When asked about her secret to balancing her responsibilities as a full-time carer to her Mum and an active volunteer and maintaining her own well-being, Vijay reveals her practice of solo walks. For an hour and a half each day, she disconnects from the world, puts her phone away, and immerses herself in the serenity of nature. These walks serve as her personal sanctuary, enabling her to rejuvenate and find solace amidst her caring duties. Vijay’s self-care routine is a testament to her resilience and serves as an inspiration to others.

Caroline Saunders, Different Strokes Volunteer & Group Coordinator commented:

“Vijay’s personal connection to stroke hits close to home, particularly through her father’s experience. She understands the emotional turmoil and the challenges that families face when a loved one has a stroke. Witnessing her own father’s journey, Vijay gained invaluable insights into the physical and emotional impact of stroke on individuals and their families. This experience fuels her unwavering dedication to supporting stroke survivors and their loved ones. Vijay’s ability to empathise and relate to others facing similar circumstances creates a profound bond within the community she has built. Her first-hand understanding of the challenges stroke survivors and their families endure serves as a driving force behind her commitment to raising awareness and providing a sense of hope and support.

Vijay has gone above and beyond to make a profound difference in the lives of others. Her weekly groups in Hounslow and Brunel have transformed lives through her exceptional support, understanding and genuine care. Vijay’s outstanding contribution as a volunteer is an inspiration to us all, and we are immensely grateful for her remarkable service.”